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Ways to Improve Memory Skills: Episode 097

Angela Gentile on Ways to Improve Memory Skills

In this episode, I talk with Angela about ways to improve memory skills.

Angela G. Gentile, M.S.W., R.S.W. has over 25 years of experience working with older adults and their families in a variety of capacities. She has worked in health care, private practice, long-term care, home care, and non-profits.

Angela has written a book, and a co-authored a mobile app, Dementia Caregiver Solutions. She is founder and manager of the LinkedIn Group, Gerontology Professionals of Canada and the Aging Well for Women Facebook page. She is currently employed full-time as a Geriatric Mental Health Clinician. She enjoys writing, traveling, photography and exploring what it means to age well.

Angela began working with older people at a very young age. She found she really enjoyed it and made a life long career. She is the “go-to” person if friends and family have questions regarding aging and it has also helped her with her own parents as they age.

All that accumulation of “stuff” doesn’t matter anymore as we age. What matters most are the memories

According to Angela, it is very interesting to see what people are left with after 80 years of living. Sometimes they end up in one little room because they can’t afford a house anymore, or they’ve lost their partner and they just don’t need all that space.

Dementia

We talked about the various types of dementia which include:

  • Alzheimer’s which is the most common form
  • Vascular Dementia which is the type that can most be prevented by healthy lifestyle choices
  • Mixed Dementia which is Alzheimer’s plus vascular combined
  • Lewy Body
  • Korsakoff’s which can be caused by alcohol consumption

What are some ways to improve memory Skills?

  1. Pay Attention
  2. Form habits to help manage misplaced items
  3. Association or cues
  4. Learn it and store it correctly
  5. Keep Physically active. The brain needs oxygen to thrive and survive

Angela has provided a Freebie for my listeners. Five Strategies to Help Improve Memory Skills. This goes over these in more detail and can be found at http://rockyourretirement.com/MemorySkills

Books

Caring for a husband with Dementia: The Ultimate Survival Guide

A Book About Burnout: One Social Worker’s Tail of Survival

Contact information: Phone: (855) 974-4219  *  Email: CareToAge@gmail.com  *  Website: www.AngelaGGentile.com

If you’d like to share your story with Angela and me, go to the show notes at Rock Your Retirement.com and leave a comment.  And you can talk with me and other listeners of the show in our private Facebook Community.  Just click on the community tab of the website.

Retirement as a surviving spouse: Episode 091

Ann Nelson talks about Retirement as a surviving spouseLife is a journey. Lot’s of retirees think about retiring as a couple. But what about retirement as a surviving spouse?

In this interview, I talk with Ann Nelson. After suddenly finding herself a widow in 2009, Ann needed to learn – and fast – about finances, survival, and ultimate retirement. Ann is the author of Retire Well, Retire Happy. On her journey, she has found that in the end, it is not all about the money. Living a happy and worthwhile life is extremely important. Her book is about how she navigated through the retirement maze and found her way after being left a widow.

In 2009, Ann was semi-retired but still working part-time flipping houses with her husband when he passed away.

Ann knew she had to figure out her retirement as a surviving spouse

We talked about the very sudden and surprising passing of her husband who had a heart attack at the dinner table. This was the catalyst for the following chain of events in her life:

  • She found herself making burial and funeral arrangements
  • Anne had to continue renovating homes herself. She worked for about a year before fully retiring. She did find working helped keep her mind busy.
  • Then she also realized she had to learn how to sort out finances due to her husband’s death

It wasn’t until she went back to her and her late husband’s home town, she began to grieve.  You have no control over grief and you have to allow yourself the time to grieve. Even though it’s been over 8 years since her husband passed she still grieves sometimes.

She had to reimagine herself and where she was going since her life had changed so much

Ann has been keeping herself very busy in her retirement. She is writing and has her own podcast. Ann is also a retirement consultant and has taken courses to learn about investing.

She is also a member of a variety of groups:

In her book she not only talks about the investing and finances in retirement, she also talks about being happy in retirement. (You know I LOVE that!) The non-financial aspects of retirement such as traveling, learning and living arrangements.

Her book is called Retire Well, Retire Happy and can be found on her website: http://www.annnelson.com.au/

Ann’s advice: Unless you are involved in outside activities, retirement can be a struggle. Prepare for retirement as a couple but also prepare and think about retirement as a surviving spouse.

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Putting Relationships Back Together: Episode 89

Michelle Brelaz is putting relationships back togetherIn this episode, I interview Michelle Brelaz who is putting relationships back together.

Michelle puts relationships back together and her goal is to reduce the divorce rate one couple at a time. She is a certified coach, trained through the official school of Anthony Robbins. Michelle also has a Diploma of Counseling and a Degree in Psychology. She has a deep desire to understand the differences between men and women so that she can provide training that facilitates respect between the genders. In time, she would like to take her training to schools – to help prevent relationship problems before they start.

Michelle had no intention of going into this line of work, but an incident where her husband lashed out and hit their daughter was the catalyst for her starting this path for her career.  She felt the counseling they went to “un-did” them and pulled them apart. She decided she wanted to focus on putting relationships back together.

Pain talks. Pain has a language all of its own. People say things when they are in pain, they don’t say when they’re in love.

So how is Michelle putting relationships back together?

Michelle feels that counseling for couples should be done individually rather than partners going to counseling together and she will never counsel a husband and wife together. People say things when they are hurt that aren’t really part of the problem or important to the relationship. Words can hurt and they are difficult to take back.

She has her clients send her a list, in order of importance, of things they want to discuss.

Women multi-think and they to need a few extra sessions to process everything. She typically has 6 sessions with women and 3 with men

Do not blame each other. There is no one to blame.

Michelle gives us some great tips to stay away from Divorce. Some of those tips are: 

  • People rush into relationships before talking about big issues such as money and children
  • Once people marry they become selfish. Keep that “What can I do for my partner” attitude you had in the beginning.
  • Sit down every 2 weeks and review the last two weeks. Talk about feelings, fun things, what made them happy, good things that happened.
  • Your relationship is a small part of your life. Don’t give up your life, friends hobbies, sports etc.
  • Take care of yourself first and then help your partner and children
  • Keep Respect

Michelle’s advice: Your relationship in retirement can almost seem like a newly wed stage of getting to know each other again and spending a lot of time together. If you think you want to get a divorce, go and get as much help as possible. You are going to lose money, relationships, extended family, and dating at a later stage in life is very difficult.

To get today’s Freebie, 3 tips for improving your relationships immediately, go to: www.RockYourRetirement.com/relationships

Contact information for Michelle: https://yusrelationshiprepairspecialists.com/

Mentioned in the interview:

Allison Armstong

Tony Robbins (Robbins-Madanes Training) 

Joan Price Rock Your Retirement Episode 061

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Organizing Your Home: Episode 088

Lisa Woodruff talks about organizing your home

In this episode, I talk with Lisa Woodruff on organizing your home

Lisa Woodruff believes organization is not a skill you are born with. It is a skill that is developed over time and changes with each season of life. She has helped thousands of women reclaim their homes and finally get organized with her practical tips, encouragement, and humor through her blog and podcast at Organize365.com.

Got clutter? I Do.

I am the “queen of clutter” or, as Lisa put’s it, “I have a hard time separating the memory from the object”. Makes perfect sense right? Since listening to Lisa’s show, I have been making progress. I am a HUGE fan of Lisa’s show and wanted YOU, my listener, to be able to learn tips on organizing your home.

Paper.. how to deal with all of the paper!

When you look at a stack of 100 sheets of paper, you think that is 100 different items that you need to deal with. Lisa looks at your stack of 1000 pieces of paper and she knows that there are no more than 8 categories in that stack of paper and she can go through it super quickly. Lisa gives an amazing tip on how to go through the archived paper. You know, the mounds of paper you have in your filing cabinet or scattered all over your desk, or taking over your kitchen table..that paper. Using Lisa’s method, you can be completely through an entire filing cabinet in just a few months.

The Sunday Basket

The Sunday Basket is a system for processing mail, kitchen counter “to do” papers, and ongoing household projects.

Some examples of things you might put in the Sunday basket are:

  • Mail
  • Receipt for some prescriptions that you picked up
  • The dry cleaning ticket
  • The little card you get from the doctor’s office telling you it’s time for your next visit
  • A birthday card you bought for your granddaughter
  • Let’s say you planned on re-hanging some pictures and you went and got command hooks. You would put those in there.

The rule is that you pick a day of the week (Lisa does hers on Sunday) and you take every single thing out of the basket. You then ask yourself one question; can this wait until next Sunday?  If the answer is yes, the item goes back in the basket. If the answer is no, it is left out to be taken care of. She even suggests making a Sunday basket for your spouse or for your loved one that you are caring for!

Lisa gives so many tips on organizing your home in this interview there is no way I could write them all here. If you have any great ideas or tips on organization feel free to post them in the comments below!

Lisa’s Books: The Mindset of Organization, Take Back Your House One Phase at a Time

If you would like to contact Lisa you can email her at lisa@organize365.com or you can go to her website https://organize365.com/

Or you can check out her virtual Sunday Basket Classes at https://thesundaybasket.com/

Websites mentioned in this interview: Zoom

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The Emotional Aspect of Retirement: Episode 87

Becky Kueker on the emotional aspect of retirement

Becky Kueker (Photography by Jacquelynn Buck)

In this interview, we talk about the emotional aspect of retirement.

Becky Kueker was 69 years old when she decided to retire from a 20-year career as a partner in a successful woman-owned commercial architectural firm in St. Louis. This was all part of her grand plan. It was the “Plan” she had created and was totally invested in since she was 40 years old. She was ready to close that door and walk out embracing a whole new chapter in her life. She and her husband had saved, invested, researched and carefully planned their retirement. They even kept a “retirement binder” for all those years with laminated financial spreadsheets, great places to retire, exciting long-awaited trips to take, and all the “how to self-help” retirement books she could read.

What she never expected was that her retirement plan had covered everything expect the emotional aspect of retirement.

Becky became depressed after she retired. She lost a lot of self-esteem and self-worth. Becky’s husband still works and she was spending a lot of time alone. She talks about an AARP Article called Out-of-Sync Retirement Syndrome. I think there are many retirees that go through sadness or even depression after retirement. Becky felt like she went from running a 25 million dollar a year company to the newly retired pack of old people. When you walk out and close that door on your work life, part of you literally disappears.

Over-the-Hill Cards aren’t as funny when it’s you that receives them

It took Becky 2 years to get over her depression. She did some silly things during this time, all while hiding most of it from her husband.

  • Becky would put on her pajama’s, Elmo slippers, and a ratty old robe. She used a hairbrush as a microphone and walked around the house singing to Elvis CD’s
  • Stayed in bed all day reading books she had never read before.
  • Watched Netflix and old movies
  • Discovered Overstock.com and online shopping

Becky made her “retirement binder” but what people really need is an “Emotional playbook Binder”. Plan for the emotional aspect of retirement as well as what you want to do with your life and your marriage before you retire.

How did she get out of her depression?

Becky wrote her book called Hiding in my pajama’s. In talking with people for research on her book, she discovered so many people that go through the same thing.

She and her husband also decided they needed their own space. So they bought a new home that allowed them space if they needed it. Becky says it is also important to find hobbies for each of you to do separately, but also plan activities and dates together. Discover the best version of yourself and get dressed and comb your hair every day.

Becky’s Book- Hiding in My Pajamas

Email:  bkueker@gmail.com

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