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An Expert Interview About Senior Games…Ep 090

Alan Mindell running in the senior games.Alan was nicknamed “Motorbutt”.

How did Alan Mindell get his nickname?  After dancing for years, Alan started running.  He wound up with some injuries, but got into shape.  At age 76, Motorbutt runs three times a week.  How often do you run?  (I don’t run. Ever.)

He wanted to come on the show to talk about the Senior Games.

The Senior Games are San Diego’s (and other counties) answer to the Senior Olympics. They are 50 years old in 2017 and there is a wide list of sports that are covered.

These sports include Track & Field; Pickleball; Archery; and Ping Pong to name a few.  If you do a Google search, you can find a list of contests and sports.  In San Diego, for the 2017 games, there will be 25 sports, including individual and team sports such as softball, volleyball, and soccer.

Alan’s sport is the 400 meter. That’s once around the track.  He said that the coolest thing he ever saw was a 100 year old man who competed in the Pole Vault.  Because he was the only participant, he was able to set a world record.  Listen to the episode to hear how he did it…it’s pretty interesting!

And, if you are looking to make friends, it’s a great place to do that too!

Attend the monthly luncheon.  Check your local Senior Games to see what they offer.

Exercising is one of the best ways we know to stave off disease in our older years.  It’s one of the best ways to stay young and healthy.  Why not take that knowledge, along with some friendly competition, to keep in shape?

I asked Alan for his advice for someone who has never exercised before. He said to start slow. Spend a few weeks going “light”.  We at the Rock Your Retirement Show don’t give medical advice, except for this:  Before starting any exercise routine, see your physician.

After you get the OK, go out there and have some fun in the senior games!

Marriage Advice After Retirement: Episode 85

Lori Davis on Marriage Advice After RetirementLet’s face it, our spouses can get on our nerves! And once you retire, you’re gonna be spending even more glorious (or not so glorious) time together. In this episode, I talk with Lori Ann Davis on marriage advice after retirement.

Lori has over 28 years’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer, happier lives. I asked her to come on the show because she is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.

You want a marriage that is not only surviving but is actually thriving.

According to Lori, just because you don’t fight and your marriage seems OK, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is. She gives some great marriage advice after retirement.

Key Elements for working on your marriage (and Lori says yes, you have to work on your marriage all the time) 

  • Constantly reconnect with each other
  • Be interested
  • Get to know them on a deeper level
  • Make sure you are spending enough time together
  • Talk about your expectations for this phase of your life
  • Discuss your dreams and interests

The Do’s and Don’ts

DO:

  • Discover who your spouse is
  • Date each other
  • Remember why you chose each other

DON’T

  • Spend 24/7 together
  • Rush into anything if you have grown apart
  • Spend zero amount of time together

What do you do if you have grown apart?

  • Sit down and start dating each other again
  • Look for the positives and the good things
  • Renew the passion and intimacy
  • Flirt
  • Sit next to each other
  • Stop for a kissing break
  • Entice
  • Hold hands
  • Leave a flirty message on the pillow or sent a flirtatious text
  • Make out and be playful

Lori and I also talk about when it’s time to get help for your relationship whether it is a counselor or a coach. Lori says the sooner you get help the better and don’t wait until you have given up.

Should you give marriage advice to a friend if they ask for it? Comment below if you have any thoughts on this subject.

Book:  Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.

Contact information: www.lorianndavis.com

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RE027: Breeding Dogs in Retirement

Judith French is breeding dogs in her retirementJudith French is breeding dogs in her retirement.

In this episode, Henry speaks with Judith French.  Judy was in nursing before she retired.  She has also been married for 54 years!  She was looking forward to her retirement so she would have more time to do things such as gardening and reading.

Judith truly loves breeding dogs.  She spends a lot of her free time doing this and she loves her dogs.  Judith began breeding animals even before she retired. In fact. she grew up in a family which bred and showed animals, so she is no stranger to the show arena.

Judith initially started with cats, but then switched to breeding dogs.  She and Henry discuss the many breeds she has raised and loved throughout the years.

Mentioned in the show:   https://www.dogzonline.com.au/breeds/member.asp?name=WATERMILL

*Please note: We realize that dog breeding is a sensitive subject for some of our listeners and readers.  The Rock Your Retirement show does not endorse… nor does it condemn breeding dogs.   Kathe currently enjoys two rescue dogs and a bird.  She believes that pets can keep you healthy and help you live longer.   Each person must decide on his or her own whether to get a pedigreed dog, show dog, or a rescue dog.

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RE026: Passion for Steam Trains

David Mickle talks about his Passion for Steam TrainsDavid Mickle has had a passion for steam trains for 50 years.

Before David he retired at the young age of 70, he worked as an electrician. He looked forward to retiring so he would have more time to pursue his passion for steam trains.

When David was a young child he was fascinated with steam trains. His passion for steam trains only grew as he got older.

Henry and David discuss his volunteer work on the on the Puffing Billy which is a voluntary Railway group that operates a steam train in Australia. David was a volunteer laborer and helped to restore the cars and railways after a landslide.

They also discuss David’s involvement with the Melbourne Steam Traction Engine Club.

David was one of the very first members of this club and was also involved in the club for over 50 years.

Dave also restored a steam engine with the help of his friend. It was manufactured by the Yorkshire Steam Wagon Company and has a horizontal boiler on the front with Ackermann steering. There is nothing automatic about this steam wagon either. You have to stop to change gears. Henry and Dave talk about the restoration process and it really is amazing.

In listening to Henry’s interview David, you can really tell how important this hobby is to David. He is a man with some fascinating stories who is more than happy to share them. There is some amazing history and heritage behind steam trains.

Do you have a passion for steam trains?

You don’t have to actually own a steam train if you are interested in them. There are steam engine organizations where you can volunteer doing things such as working on the trains or driving the trains.

What is David advice for retirees? Find a hobby and keep your body active and your mind active. Sounds like great advice!

Websites Mentioned in this interview:

Have you ever ridden on a steam train?  Leave a comment below to tell us about your experience.

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track…and helps with these show notes!
  • Les Briney, my husband, who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
  • YOU for telling your friends about the show, leaving comments below, and sharing episodes you really like on Facebook, and reviewing the show on iTunes

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Bad Words with Mary Fran Bontempo: Episode 080

Mary Fran Bontempo and Bad Words

Mary Fran Bontempo and Bad Words

In this episode, I spoke with Mary Fran Bontempo about bad words.

Mary Fran has a great sense of humor and you can tell by the name of her blog, “Not Ready for Granny Panties.” She is also the author of 3 books. Today we talked about her latest book, “The Woman’s Book of Dirty Words”.

These bad words aren’t what you might think they are.

Before we talked about Mary Fran’s book, I just had to go over an article on her website about “Shhssing your brain” Do you ever feel like you just can’t shut your brain off? This is called ‘brain chatter’, Mary Fran explains where she discovered this and what you can do to help yourself.

We also touched on Mary Fran’s son and how she and her husband dealt with his heroin addiction. Her advice is to not think you’re going to fix it. Get professional help!

Onto the dirty! The ‘bad words’ that Mary Fran goes over with us in this podcast:

  • Fine
  • Adventure
  • Nice
  • No (We even did a little role-playing on how to say no)
  • Balance

The constraints that we put on ourselves to become spectacular…we treat ‘fine’ like it’s a dirty word like there’s something wrong with being okay and good enough

Mary Fran and I even did a little role-playing on the bad word “NO” and how to say it. Not sure if we will win any Grammy’s for our performance but needless to say, it was a lot of fun!

I also asked Mary Fran to give us one of the eleven commandments to staying out of granny panties.

Thou Shalt Stop ‘Shoulding’ Thyself

Mary Fran says we are always filling our days up with things we should and shouldn’t do. The word “should” very often equals obligation and the word “shouldn’t” often equals denial. We need to change that language to change these to must and want. Sounds like good advice to me!

If you would like to check out Mary Fran’s blog go to http://www.notreadyforgrannypanties.com/ and Mary Fran’s website is http://maryfranbontempo.com/.

Also, as I promised in the interview, here is a link to Mary’s Blog post on Brain Chatter

Books

The Woman’s Book of Dirty Words,

Not Ready for Granny Panties—The 11 Commandments for Avoiding Granny Panties

Everyday Adventures: Or, As My Husband Says, “Lies, Lies and More Lies”

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track…and helps with these show notes!
  • Les Briney, my husband, and Danny Ozment of Emerald City Pro who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
  • YOU for telling your friends about the show, leaving comments below, and sharing episodes you really like on Facebook, and reviewing the show on iTunes

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