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Be YOU anytime, all the time: Episode 114

Be You anytime all the timeBe YOU anytime, all the time!

Lori has worn many hats from being a kindergarten teacher where we know “you really learn all there is to know”, right? to becoming a Licensed Clinical Social Worker LCSW. At the age of 48, she decided to get a Master’s degree and opened a private practice. Also, during that time, she was also involved with Hospice as Bereavement Director for 10 years.

As coaching came into prominence, she completed a year-long coaching program and became a coach with the Hudson Institute of Santa Barbara specializing in Adult Self- Renewal and Developmental Growth.

You might call her a life-long learner – she is even a laughter yoga instructor, so she has a broad range of skills to choose from to help people make changes and reinvent themselves.

Let’s take a look at Lori’s journey:

Lori’s mother left their dad when Lori was just 3 weeks old. To support her and her brothers, Lori’s mother enrolled in a beauty school while they stay with relatives. Lori was 3 years old when her mom opened a beauty shop in their house. Being a toddler, Lori just wants to be by her mom’s side and see all the actions in the beauty shop but her mom kept “shushing” her to her room and she doesn’t understand why. That made a huge impact on Lori. She felt like she’s a bother, felt lonely and alone. Lori feels she’s unwanted.

She learned perseverance from her mother so she decided that she wanted to go to college. Not a lot of women do that during those times. Lori went to their family doctor and asked him if he could loan her money for college. The doctor agreed but Lori’s mother didn’t know what she did. When her mother found out she was going to college, her mother said it’s not a good idea because she might lose her religion. Lori took up Psychology because she knew that’s what she needed to help herself understand things. It’s her path to understanding herself.

Be you all the time!

“To be true to yourself means to act in accordance with who you are and what you believe.

If you know and love yourself you will find it effortless to be true to yourself and to be YOU all the time.

Just as you cannot love anyone else until you love yourself, you cannot be true to anyone else until you are true to yourself.  Begin by not being afraid to be who you are!

As difficult as it may seem at first, have the courage to accept yourself as you really are, not as someone else thinks you should be. Do not take action or pretend to be someone else for the sake of gaining acceptance.”

By Z. Hereford

Redesign your life:
  • Ask yourself what events or characters show up – review of your life.
  • What is their impact?
  • What beliefs or habits stop you from doing what you want to do?

 

You may contact Lori via her website: www.loricassidy.com or e-mail: loricassidy1@gmail.com

Book mentioned in the podcast:  Writing Down Your Soul by Janet Conner

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Let’s talk about death: Episode 113

Jon Braddock talks about DeathLet’s talk about death.

Jonathan Braddock is our guest for today and he is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, and the founder and CEO of My Life and Wishes, an education and digital planning platform with a mission to help at least one million families become “thoughtfully prepared” for the inevitable, their own death. Jon is the author of “Advisor or Vendor”, “Retire Erase”, the “My Life and Wishes Organization”, and, his most recent release, “Click Here When I Die”, is an Amazon Best Seller.

Why is planning for our death important?

Leaving your family via your death is already hard for them, planning your wake and burial will be much harder for them. Leaving them via your death with a Will help them know what you want. They will know if you want to be cremated, in-ground burial, etc. Helping them know what you want or have planned for them is a really big thing because it lessens the hardship that they will face after your death.

For Jon’s family, it took them 10 months to finally finish all the paperwork left for his father-in-law. They found a bank account where the bank’s name is not familiar to them. Imagine the stressful phone calls they had to make to locate the bank. It will be much easier if you prepare everything like your bank accounts, social media passwords, ATM passwords, your will, insurance policies, and many more. Jon shares a story about someone he knows where he’s really guilty that he didn’t have her mother cremated when that’s what she really wants but he didn’t know that because she didn’t tell him.

What are the 5 stages of grief when there’s a death?

  • Denial – this is the first of the five stages of grief. It helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible. As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process. You are becoming stronger, and the denial is beginning to fade.
  • Anger – a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless. The more you truly feel it, the more it will begin to dissipate and the more you will heal. There are many other emotions under the anger and you will get to them in time, but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing. The anger is just another indication of the intensity of your love.
  • Bargaining – Before a loss, it seems like you will do anything if only your loved one would be spared. “Please God, ” you bargain, “I will never be angry at my wife again if you’ll just let her live.” After a loss, bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. “What if I devote the rest of my life to helping others. Then can I wake up and realize this has all been a bad dream?” We become lost in a maze of “If only…” or “What if…” statements.
  • Depression – After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It’s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness. It is the appropriate response to a great loss. If grief is a process of healing, then depression is one of the many necessary steps along the way.
  • Acceptance – this is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of a loved one. This stage is about accepting the reality that our loved one is physically gone and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.

Reference:

You may reach Jon Braddock through:

E-mail: jon@mylifeandwishes.com

Phone: 844-369-4747

Website: www.mylifeandwishes.com

Jon’s Books:

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Les and Kathe’s Movie Pass Experience: Episode 112

What is a Movie Pass?

Movie Pass lets you watch a movie for free! You just have to pay $10 per month to get one and you can watch movies every day. Imagine 30 movies in 30 days for only $10!! How awesome is that?

 

Advantages of Movie Pass:

  • You can watch new release movies
  • You can watch movies every day for free
  • There are no blocked out dates
  • At theaters where advanced seating is available, you can select your seat in advance
  • You’ll save tons of $$$

I wouldn’t say disadvantages but here are some things you cannot do with your Movie Pass:

  • You cannot watch 2 movies in a day
  • Members can’t watch the same movie twice
  • You can’t watch 3D movies
  • Tickets can be bought the same day you are going to watch the movie. You cannot buy days ahead.
  • To reserve your seat, you must be 100 feet away from the theatre

Having a Movie Pass lets you save a lot of money that you can use to spend on other things. You can have a movie date every day and still have some extra bucks to spend on dinner or groceries.

Watching a movie is a great stress reliever and it’s super fun! However, there are things that you might be doing in the cinema that might be annoying to other people. Here are some examples:
  • Texting – this one is very common. Did you know that the light on your cell phone is distracting?
  • Not putting your phone on silent mode – this one is really annoying. Imagine you’re watching a movie and when it’s climax, someone’s phone is going to ring in maximum volume.
  • Talking loudly – just like not putting your phone on silent mode.

Les and I became interested in Movie Pass when we visited my parents on the East Coast. We went to the cinema and my parents didn’t pay for their ticket! And because of this, we thought, why not get a Movie Pass instead of paying $15-20 per person per movie?

We are sharing this experience because it will help you in your Retirement Lifestyle. You will save a lot of cash especially if you’re a movie-goer. You can spend it on other things like one of my personal favorites, cruises. If you love gardening you can spend it on fertilizers or seeds!

CLICK HERE FOR MOVIE PASS POSTED IN COSTCO FOR $89.99

After buying your Movie Pass in Costco, you need to complete your registration. CLICK HERE for the registration page.

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Signs of Urinary Tract Infection: Dementia! Episode 111

Jenna Ryan talks about a drink that can prevent a UTI

Jenna Ryan knows signs of urinary tract infection.  She used to get them all the time.

Did you know that signs of urinary tract infection include dementia?  This was a shock to me when I first found out.  I mean, what does one have to do with the other?

Jenna Ryan is with us today to educate us about signs of urinary tract infections (UTI) and why she created a drink that can prevent/cure UTI.

Jenna is the CEO and co-founder of Uqora, a company dedicated to UTI prevention. Uqora has developed a “pink lemonade with a purpose” that helps women flush out UTI-causing bacteria. She created this drink mix because she herself suffered from UTI. Jenna says she doesn’t want to take antibiotics because it can develop resistance.

What is a UTI?

A urinary tract infection (UTI) is an infection in any part of your urinary system — your kidneys, ureters, bladder, and urethra. Most infections involve the lower urinary tract — the bladder and the urethra.

Women are at greater risk of developing a UTI than are men. Infections limited to your bladder can be painful and annoying. However, serious consequences can occur if a UTI spreads to your kidneys.

Doctors typically treat urinary tract infections with antibiotics. But you can take steps to reduce your chances of getting a UTI in the first place.

Here are some signs of urinary tract infection to watch out for:

  • A burning feeling when you urinate
  • A frequent or intense urge to urinate, even though little comes out when you do
  • Pain or pressure in your back or lower abdomen
  • Cloudy, dark, bloody, or strange-smelling urine
  • Feeling tired or shaky
  • Fever or chills (a sign the infection may have reached your kidneys)

The issue with older adults is that many times they don’t get the same feelings of pain or burning sensations when they urinate so their UTIs often go undiagnosed.  But… then other issues can occur.

Did you know that signs of urinary tract infection can lead to misdiagnosis of Dementia?

Here are some signs of urinary tract infection that are the same as Dementia:

  • Delirium
  • Hallucination
  • Dizziness
  • Confusion

How to Prevent a UTI

Hydration is the key to prevent a UTI. If you’re at risk of having a UTI, drink Uqora. If you’re in the older generation, you have to drink it every day. Good hygiene can also prevent a UTI.

If you have signs of urinary tract infection, the Uqora might be able to help.  But most importantly, be sure the speak with your doctor about the possibility of your parents having a UTI if they suddenly show signs of dementia.

References:

You may visit Uqora by clicking HERE

Jenna Ryan will give you a 15% discount when you purchase Uqora using the code “Rockit15”

Jenna’s contact information:Jenna@uqora.com

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Multigenerational Living: Episode 110

Multigenerational Living

Multigenerational Living: Is it hard? How does it work?

Lisa Cini is an award-winning, internationally-recognized senior living designer with more than 25 years’ experience.She just released her second book entitled “Hive The Simple Guide to Multigenerational Living,” which is based on her own personal situation of living in a 4-generation household with people in the house ranging in age from 17-92 and the positive impact design can have in a home for seniors with dementia.

Lisa is also the Founder of www.BestLivingTech.com, think Sharper Image meets AARP! She searches the world for the best products to Embrace Living as we age. Her design company, Mosaic Design Studio, is the nation’s leading provider of design services for senior living

According to Lisa, 90% of people do not want to move to Senior Living facilities. A lot of seniors do not want to move into the beautiful Senior Living Facilities Lisa Designs.

Why would someone not want to live in a beautiful Senior Facility where they don’t have to cook and there are a ton of activities?

  1. It can be very expensive
  2. People want to age at home
  3. Some of them got their house when they got married or when they got home from the war. They had that same house their entire lives. Giving up their house is like giving up their freedom

Multigenerational living means living with different age groups in one house.

25% of seniors are now living in a multigenerational household

Lisa started living with her parents and grandparents when she started her company. She needed her mom to take care of her kids. Lisa asked her mom to help her raise the kids and her mom agreed. Her parents lived a couple of blocks away from her house so, she thought, her parents need to move in with her. She also convinced her grandmom to move in with them.

How does it work? How do you deal with the different needs of different persons? Lisa tells us stories from her personal experience as she’s living with her family from different age groups.

Living with Lisa’s parents and grandmother is going well. Her kids love their grandma’s food, her parents love the joy her kids are giving them. Of course, nobody’s perfect so even if everything is going well, there are some bumpy rides along the way. One of them was storage. Each generation feels differently about the storage of their private things. For example; there are things her grandmother considers private that her mother doesn’t. There are also things her mother considers private that Lisa doesn’t consider private.

Lisa’s grandmother has Alzheimer’s. She wanders around so Lisa created a wandering path in her house and used technology. Anything that she could hurt herself on is not on that wandering path. They also installed cameras in her house so that whenever her parents would go out and eat dinner, they would not worry about coming home right away. They could just turn on the camera and talk to her grandmother. Pretty Cool!

Lisa has a 21 point checklist on how to age in place at her website www.lisamcini.com

If you would like to check out Lisa’s Books here are the links:

The Future Is Here: Senior Living Reimagined

HIVE

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