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What Does Your Retirement Life Look Like? Episode 109

This might be a hard question for some people, but let’s face it, what does your retirement life look like?

Steve Cousins is one of our listeners. (Hi Steve!) After graduating from college Steve joined an oil company at a refinery in Arkansas where he worked as an engineer, manager and eventually as the VP and General Manager.  He stayed with the same company for his entire career and remained at the same location.

Last year Steve retired upon turning 60 and immediately stepped into a retirement career designed to be part-time, low stress and lots of fun.  After a year, the plan is working great!  I wanted to discuss with him his choice in a “semi-retirement”.

“You shouldn’t run away from something, you have to run towards something”

Steve always thought he will be working until he was 70 or later because he really enjoyed his job. The last few years, things changed he did not enjoy it very much but he hung on because frankly, he was afraid of retirement. There were several reasons he was afraid of retirement and I think a lot of people can relate.

  1. Steve thought if he was leaving work because he didn’t enjoy it anymore that didn’t necessarily mean he would enjoy retirement either.
  2. He also looked at the compensation he was getting from work and it was painful for him to walk away from that after working so hard to get to that point in his career.
  3. His job was his identity and he didn’t want to lose that

Working to feel useful and productive in retirement

Even before retiring from his job, Steve decided what he wanted his retirement life to look like. He wanted to feel useful and productive. He started his side gigs which are pretty cool!

  • Contract Lobbying
  • Expert Witness work
  • Trade Association representation

Side gigs or semi-retirement not for you? Steve, says focus on volunteer work. He has a ton of volunteer positions! (As we tend to hear a lot, he is just as busy if not even busier than when he was working) His volunteer work includes:

  1. Chair the Board of Trustees for the local community college
  2. Local Hospital Clinic that helps people who are uninsured or underinsured
  3. State and local Chamber of Commerce
  4. State University mentoring students
  5. On the board of a local group called 50 for the future where they solve problems in the city

It’s not all work for Steve. He also spends time with his wife. They enjoy doing a lot of things together like running, hiking, off-road riding, discovering hidden waterfalls, and many more activities. Now that they are retired, they can spend a lot more time together but still spend time doing their own things as well.

Steve’s Advice from one listener of the show to another:

You should marry someone better than yourself and invest a lot of time in your relationship because if everything else went away and you still have each other, you will still be fine.

Widen your horizon’s. Don’t just do your job, volunteer to do other things. REach outside of your comfort zone, and practice public speaking because it helps boost your confidence. What great advice Steve!

Did you plan your retirement life? How did you do it? Leave a comment below and let us know!

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Your hobby can help you in your Retirement: Episode 108

Your hobby can help you in your Retirement

Kim Jamieson-Hirst is a YouTube superstar and a pretty big deal in the quilting world! I brought her on the show to not only talk about her hobby of quilting but how ANY hobby can help you in your retirement. Kim is the owner of Chatterbox Quilts in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. She started quilting more than a decade ago and initially thought it was boring. But after her friends encouraged her to try and enroll in a quilting course, she became addicted and started her business in 2008. Her designs and articles have been featured in Quilter’s Connection magazine, Irish Quilting, The Country Register, and Bustle & Sew ezine.

Kim is the creator of Unloved and Unappreciated: Finding the Hidden Value in Vintage Sewing Machines and is currently working on more online courses to help quilters reclaim their joy in the craft.

If you think quilting isn’t for you or might “boring”, think again! We talked about the various kinds of equipment used as well as the different kinds of quilts there are. It’s quite fascinating! You will also discover during this interview, that I know absolutely nothing about quilting!

We also discussed her YouTube channel called Chatterboxquilts. It teaches her followers how to quilt, how to use machines for quilting, and so much more! She’s also a blogger, and Kim also works part-time at a French immersion elementary school. Busy lady! What started her project is her passion to share her knowledge with other quilters so that they could enjoy their craft more. Just like our previous guest, Ellen Williamson, Kim’s quilting is more of a “jobby”.

Kim goes into greater detail in her freebie, but her tips for reclaiming joy in your hobby are:

  • Join groups that have the same hobby as you!
    • Exchanging ideas and earning more friends that have the same hobby as you will help you a lot.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others.
    • Everyone is unique. You may be good at quilting and not at woodworking.
  • Give yourself permission to stop working on a project.
    • Sometimes, you might feel like you’re not enjoying what you are doing anymore. It’s okay to stop. Time is too short to work on things that you’re no longer enjoying.
  • Don’t feel guilty about the time you spent in working on your hobby.
    • You can’t buy happiness. If you love what you are doing, just keep on doing it! Also, hobbies are good for your mental and emotional health.
  • Stop, but don’t quit!
    • You might feel that you’re not having fun on what you’re doing. Take a break.

If you would like to download, 5 Steps to Reclaiming the Joy in your Hobby, it can be found at http://RockYourRetirement.com/Hobby

Kim’s contact information is: Email: kim@chatterboxquilts.com * Website: www.chatterboxquilts.com

It doesn’t matter whether you enjoy quilting, sports, cars, or even steam trains, it is important to find a hobby (or several) as your hobby can help you in your retirement. What is your hobby? Share it with us in the notes below.

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How Religion helps you stay healthy: Episode 106

Dr. Jim Brown talks about how Religion helps you stay healthyYes! You read that right. Religion helps you stay healthy!

What else should we discuss on Christmas Day, but religion?

Dr. Jim Brown discusses the benefits of going to church with me on this Christmas special, and they aren’t all just spiritual. He is a university professor teaching Technology and Psychology (that’s a weird mix…right?) and is currently the pastor of The Lake Church. Dr. Jim Brown has been a principal, superintendent, department chair at three different universities. He also served several churches and various roles from music pastor to senior pastor.

Did you know that there are benefits in the faith community to our mind, body, and spirit?

Although we still report ourselves to be a “Christian Nation”, 17% of Americans are regularly attending services (including all religions) weekly. That’s about 1 in every 5 Americans go to (church/synagogue/mosque/etc.) on a regular basis. It doesn’t mean that the 83% doesn’t go to church at all, they just don’t go on a regular basis.

Here are some of the benefits of going to church and how religion helps you stay healthy :

  • Churchgoers live longer and enjoy better overall health in the general population.  Why is this?  Does this surprise you?
    • According to Dr. Lynda Powell, Preventive Medicine Specialist at Rush University Medical Center, the answer may lie at least in part in the positive lifestyle choices that churches promote. Most religious organizations discourage negative habits like smoking, drugs, etc.
  • Frequent churchgoers are happier than those who do not attend services.  Of course, there is always the exception, and right now churchgoers might have a particular reputation of being…well…judgmental or “churchie” for lack of a better word…  But according to research on religion, it’s true.  Why is this?
    • We learn (over time) to accept life as it comes.
    • We learn (also over time) to love and accept one another.  No matter what the flaws are.  This can be one of the most difficult things to learn.
    • A support system is built in for those hard times that we all must face.
  • Regular attendance may increase lifespan.
    • Many Americans go to church because it helps them stay grounded and gives them spiritual guidance.
    • Tyler VanderWeele of Harvard said, “Church attendance promotes self-discipline and sense of meaning and purpose.”
    • Dr. Blazer, a professor of Psychiatry at Duke University said, “The one aspect that is significant of good health is religious service attendance.”
  • Couples who attend church services are less likely to divorce and have happier marriages than those who don’t attend.

To get Dr. Brown’s 11 Good Reasons to Attend Church, go to http://rockyourretirement.com/ReasonsToAttendChurch

Do you have any comments about today’s episode?  Post them in the comments section below!

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Caring for someone with Dementia: Episode 102

Caring for someone with Dementia

Caring for someone (especially our loved one) with Dementia can be challenging. Rick Topete is with us today to give us advice on how to take care of someone with Dementia.

 

Rick Topete’s passion with seniors began way back when he was in high school.

He studied at St. Bernard High School where they visit local Senior Centers in Los Angeles. During his visit to Senior Centers, they would play cards, listen to old-time music, hear their great stories, put a smile on their face and let them know they mattered. In 2011, he had an opportunity at Silverado Care. Within the first year of taking the job, his Aunt was diagnosed with early onset of Dementia that made it “real” and really centered him on what this disease is.

Rick gives us some tips on how to take care of someone with Dementia.

  • Keep the tone of your voice pleasant and soft.
    • Sometimes, the noise can have an effect on someone with Dementia.
  • Gentle eye contact
  • Stay away from negative words
  • Change topic if needed
  • Give simple choices
    • Example, would you like to wear the red sweater or the blue sweater?
  • Know their passion and help them use and maintain the remaining strength they have today.
    • Celebrate their abilities and not focus on their limitation
  • If a loved one has passed, be in the moment with them

Rick tells us it’s all about understanding what their passion is, what’s their past job, hobbies, etc. Once you get to know them better, you can use it to help them feel important. If you knew someone with Dementia and you know that he or she likes gardening, make him or her do gardening (with supervision, of course). It’s all about not making them feel that they have a disease or that they are useless. What’s important is that we make them feel that they matter, that they have a purpose.

“Give them the opportunity to live, understand what’s in their heart, understand what’s important to them.”

Even though the disease may be there it doesn’t mean they can’t live and still have that social involvement in living

each day.

Below are some links to support activities for Seniors, especially those with a Dementia diagnosis.

If you would like to contact Rick his phone number is 760-215-5517

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