What he is saying now about Volunteering in Mongolia: RE003

Jenny and Stan volunteering in Mongolia

Jenny and Stan volunteering in Mongolia

In this episode of Retired Excited, Henry interviews Stan Brown.

Stan tells how his wife Jenny wanted to volunteer overseas to help others. He didn’t care about volunteering in Mongolia so he didn’t go….at first.

He missed his wife so finally after a few months he followed her to the orphanage where she was the health officer.  That’s when his adventures began.

Now Stan has some very sound advice for people considering volunteering in Mongolia.

  • Go with a reputable and recognized agency.
  • Obtain as much information as you can about the agency and it’s programs before you go.  Talk to people who have volunteered through that agency.  Get the fact of how it really plays out, not what the brochure promises.
  • Be sure you understand the details.  This includes your accommodation, pay, food, insurance and so on.
  • Also be sure to understand the procedure of what happens in case of an emergency.
  • Be sure to understand your obligations to the agency and your host country, as well as their relationship to you.  Stan mentioned that some volunteers could not hack the simple living conditions on site, and were eager to go home.
  • Perhaps the most important advice Stan and Jenny give prospective volunteers concerns your attitude.  Do NOT go overseas believing that you are going to “save the world”, and expect to be honored by a grateful community.

Go to provide what help you can.  Try to fit in with the local customs, laws and reality of the situation.  You are going to eat what the locals eat, drink what the locals drink, and dance when the locals dance.  The drink in Mongolia included a mildly alcoholic brew of fermented milk boiled up in a big pot.  You are going to have the local standard of washing facilities and accommodation.

If that doesn’t sound good… don’t go.

On the other hand Stan and Jenny absolutely loved their time in Mongolia, loved the people, loved the country and would go back in a heartbeat.  They have volunteered in other places since that trip, and enjoyed every experience.

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
  • YOU the listener for sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

How do I find a Home for Mom? Episode 62

Find a home for Mom

Sydney Kennedy helps you find a home for mom when she can’t care for herself anymore.

How do I find a home for Mom when she needs more help than I can give?

Today’s guest of the Rock Your Retirement show was Sydney Kennedy.  She specializes in answering the question, “How do I find a home for Mom?”.  Sydney immigrated to the USA in 1987 and worked with animal causes in fundraising and development.  She has experience developing conferences and workshops for UCSD CONNECT (and Sydney and I have a connection here that you can learn about by listening to the show).  In 2006 started devoting her time, knowledge, and experience to Elder Care and senior housing.

As a Certified Senior Adviser (CSA) she is well equipped to assist families:

  • Find a home for Mom
  • Understand the difference between referral and placement
  • Assess the needs of the family
    • Take into consideration including health status
    • Assumed future health status based on current condition
  • Assess the financial parameters of the family including Long Term Care Insurance, Veterans Benefits and other programs
  • Understand the geographical needs of the family
  • consider family involvement or potential lack therof in assessing where the family member should be placed
  • Understand that important background and other interests such as:
    • Places to gather such as Pubs or coffee shops inside the community
    • Gaming groups for socialization such as bridge groups or card groups
    • Other background that is important

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We also discussed how someone would avoid pitfalls when they need to find a home for mom and simplify the process when you need to find a home for mom or other loved one.

These services are typically free to the family since the communities will pay (similar to a travel agent or realtor).

Senior Housing Experts often can provide referrals that will help your loved one stay in their own home as long as possible.   Additionally, a CSA can save you time by considering the following:

  • Do you need a community that is specifically designed for wheelchairs?
  • What is your budget? Can you afford the community?
  • Reputation of the community
  • Government reports – how to zero in on the information the family needs to know
  • Caregiver training and temperament
  • Board and Care versus Assisted Living and Nursing Homes
  • Special considerations for Dementia
    • Concussions and how they relate to Dementia

The family makes the final decision, but it’s nice to have someone that holds your hand, especially when the family is in crisis.

Sydney has some personal experience with Dementia and is involved in that community. Her mom is in assisted living in Canada and she told us her story. She also told us a few other stories that showed us why it’s important to watch out for our seniors.

Mentioned in the show:

Sydney’s contact information:  www.timetomovecareplacement.com  Cell:  858-945-1731

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

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Senior Sex after Seventy: getting it on! Ep 61

Warning:  This episode on senior sex obviously contains adult material.

senior sex

Joan Price teaches us that it’s OK to have sex after seventy

Today my guest was Joan Price, who is a senior sex guru.  And as you know, sex is an important part of the retirement lifestyle.

Joan, who is an “advocate for ageless sexuality”, has written numerous books, and in fact, she has been called the “senior sexpert”.   When I met her online I knew that I just had to have her on the show!

We discussed the fact that NO, we don’t have to sit in a separate bathtub holding hands with our partner (think Cialis commercials) and in fact, we don’t even need to have partner at all!  Think about it, if you are a woman, chances are your partner (if you have one) is going to predecease you if you are around the same age since women live longer than men.

Senior Sex?  I have so many questions!

  • What do you think about drugs like Cialis and Viagra?
  • Should these senior sex drugs be covered by Medicare?
  • What made you start writing about senior sex in the first place?
  • How can we spice up our sex lives?
  • Why do we tend to put our sex lives on hold as we get older?
  • What do we do if we don’t have a partner (Joan has a lot to say about this subject!)
  • If you’re shy, what do you do?
  • How can you talk to your doctor and what should you say?
  • What do you do with all those adult toys after you review them?

We talked about the fact that she writes reviews of sex toys from a senior perspective.

I asked her what the difference would be between a non-senior and a senior perspective and she was happy to tell me.

  1. We lose sensitivity as we age, so senior sex toys should be really powerful.
  2. For the same reason, they have to go a long time. We don’t want the battery dying at a critical moment.
  3. An adult toy should be comfortable for arthritic hands (ergonomic).
  4. The controls should be easy for aging eyes to see.
  5. We need to be able to hold on to them with slippery fingers, so they should be easy to hold.
  6. These devices should be made with non-toxic materials. There are no laws governing this like there are for dog toys or baby toys.  (Who knew?)
  7. Aging women may prefer slimmer senior sex toys.

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Joan has several books including:

She also offers classes and webinars, and you can find out more information on her websites:

www.joanprice.com  or  www.nakedatourage.com

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Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

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Friday Retired Excited Show: Introduction to Henry: RE1

Henry Shapiro joins Rock Your Retirement

Henry Shapiro joins Rock Your Retirement with the Retired Excited Friday Show

We’ve brought on a new host to Rock Your Retirement.  Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited.

Henry IS retired, and when he started thinking that managing a show was too much for him, I invited him to bring his past episodes to Rock Your Retirement so they wouldn’t be lost. We’ll be bringing an archived show over each week for your enjoyment.  Then as he has times, he may bring some additional episodes over. We hope he does.  So when you hear “Retired Excited” don’t feel that you’re lost.  Our plan is to release the Retired Excited episodes with Henry on Friday’s, and you’ll still get your weekly dose of Kathe on the Monday shows.

Henry’s First Episode :

In this archived session, Henry introduces himself with a short first episode of Retired Excited.  He invites us to his world of retirement, and let us know what to expect in future sessions.

He talks about his experience of many people being afraid of retiring.  Although they anticipate it, they don’t know what they are going to do with their time. Henry’s aim was to provide inspiration for every one of the listeners to have an excellent retirement.  Sound familiar?  That is the aim of the Rock Your Retirement show as well!  What a perfect pairing.

Henry went on to say that many people who retire have no plan for the future.  He talks about how their purpose dissolves and how they need to reestablish their focus and meaning.

The goal of the Friday show is to look at the options and see how happy retired people are creating their lives.  Mr. Shapiro interviews regular people, not high fliers.  He finds out what gets them up excited every morning.

Henry Shapiro’s own story is fairly simple. He comes from a normal family.  And his parents struggled to establish themselves in Australia, having migrated here from Europe after the second world war.  His parents managed to put Henry and his brother through school, and gave them the best start they could.

Like many of us, Henry has had a variety of jobs and businesses throughout life and is now fully retired and living with ‘She Who Must Be Obeyed’ in a suburb of Melbourne, Australia.

So the theme is … there is lots to do, lots to occupy retirees, lots to learn, and a world of fun and comradeship to be enjoyed.

Henry and Kathe

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Friday’s Retired Excited Show
  • YOU the listener for sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

 

How to find a Caregiver: Douglas Breuer Episode 60

How to find a caregiver

How to find a caregiver

This Caregiver Agency provides a free venue for people to get to know caregivers

Douglas Breuer started MyCareMatch.com with one objective: Make the process of finding the right care solution less complicated for seniors, people with disabilities and their loved ones.

Douglas’ motivation stems from his direct experience in senior care and case management over the last 10 years.  He started his career in Adult Protective Services. Doug investigated cases where vulnerable adults were being exploited or abused.  He then moved on to act as District Manager for the State of Oregon (“DHS”).  While there, he directed the delivery of long term care services throughout the Central Oregon region. Douglas had the opportunity to work with seniors and adults with disabilities as well as their families.  In his role he coordinated with staff, individual care providers, home care agencies, care communities and countless other service providers to develop care arrangements for seniors and adults with disabilities.

In our interview, Doug explains what MyCareMatch does that is different from home care agencies.  He also talks about why you might want to use it.

Caregivers can build profiles detailing their experience, education, photos, references, resumes and even videos.  If you’ve ever tried to find a caregiver, you’ll probably see how this is helpful.

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The organization also can provide extensive background checks with the caregiver’s permission. They also provide reference checks and can even provide DMV checks all at very reasonable prices.

We discussed the Caregiver Registry for the state of California..

Caregivers now go through an intense State screening process. Doug recommends that even if a Caregiver has had a background check a few months ago it is always best to get a more recent one.

The website offers a search tool and educational resources you can explore. If you decide you want to contact a caregiver or care agency, you contact them directly. It is a one to one process.

We also discuss “Ray” who was one of his first clients when working for the state of Oregon. Ray was developmentally disabled.  Ray, who was also a senior, didn’t let his disability stop him.  He lived in the home his parents left him, and some people wanted to take that away from him. Doug would get lots of calls about people trying to take advantage of Ray. He talks about the relationship he built and how he helped intervene to keep him protected, and helped maintain his independence

Find out more at http://www.mycarematch.com

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Military Transitions with Doug Nordman: Episode 59

Military Transitions with Doug Nordman

Military Transitions with Doug Nordman

Doug Nordman is the author of ‘The Military Guide To Financial Independence And Retirement’.

Doug’s writing has to do with Military Transitions.

If you think he’s doing it for the money, you’re wrong.  All of his writing revenue is donated to military charities. He’s a retired submariner who’s been living in Hawaii for over fourteen years. So if you hear the birds in the background, it’s because he is in a tropical area!  He and his wife, (who is a retired Navy Reservist), raised their daughter in the islands.    They enjoy slow travel all over the world (some of it on military Space A flights) and DIY home-improvement projects.  After retirement, he was “bit” by the surfing bug and learned to surf with his family.  Their daughter is now on Navy active duty with her spouse.

Doug gives great advice about military transitions for services members and their families

A few years after retirement, Doug stumbled into writing and became an author. His book provides service members, veterans, and their families information on military transitions into retirement or a new bridge career. Some advice Doug offers in our interview:

  • Prepare 18 months in advance if possible
  • There are a lot of Clubs and Associations for people after they leave the military. The common goal is to assist with military transitions.
  • Both the active service members and their spouse should attend military retirement transition seminars. Doug mentions that there is a lot of written material online.  He thinks that attending a live seminar is best.
  • There are numerous options for military retirees who want to start their own businesses

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Being alone together in the same house

I asked Doug about spending so much time with his spouse now that they are both retired. He says he doesn’t get tired of spending too much time together. It is important to have a plan before retirement and talk with our spouse about it. Doug and his wife still have alone time even when they are both home. Learn to adapt to renegotiating roles as things change in your lives. Doug also says it is ok to keep separate interests and priorities.

What advice would you give to a retiree who feels stuck? 

You’ve already worked out the finances, and now you’re “working” on your lifestyle.  Make the time to practice it before you permanently retire.  Take at least 2-3 weeks of vacation to fully unplug from your career. Give plenty of time for contemplation and thoughtful discussions with your family.  Don’t take on huge projects during this time. Instead try to catch up on your sleep, enjoy some long walks, and build a list of activities that you’d like to try.

If you would like a copy of Doug’s Book, The Miliary Guide to Financial Independence and Retirement, go to Amazon or Impact Publications (Which sells a 64-page “Pocket Guide”) You can also find it in the GSA catalog if you are on a military base or check your local public library or military base library

Contact information: nordsnords@gmail.com or you can use the contact me section on his website at http://the-military-guide.com

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Links to the  people/organizations we mention in the interview

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