Making a Move: Episode 57

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Jami Shapiro helps you when you are making a move.

Jami helps people who are making a move.

Are you Making a Move soon?  This is the episode to listen to!  Jami Shapiro is the owner of Silver Linings Transitions. She is a single mother of three girls, an 11 year thyroid cancer survivor, a community volunteer and a Realtor.

Believing everything happens for a reason, Jami discovered the National Association of Senior Move Managers in 2014. They were holding the national conference in San Diego.  She attended the conference, met other Senior Move Managers and knew she’d found the work she was meant to do.

Silver Linings Transitions is a bright spot for people facing difficult transitions AND making a move.

The company specializes in seniors who are downsizing or making a move into senior communities as well as couples going through divorce. As someone’s who’s faced cancer and divorce, Jami understands personally how important it is to find the “silver lining” when life doesn’t go the way we’d hoped.  When working with clients through their transition, the Silver Linings Transitions team focuses on what’s positive during a difficult time and helps the client navigate through the move as gently as possible.

The most important work we do is helping people with the emotional aspect of making a move.

In this episode Jamie and I talk about:

  • The secret of getting 3000 square feet worth of stuff into a 1200 square foot apartment.
  • What can I do now if I don’t want to move, but I just have a lot of clutter that I want to get rid of?
  • How do you deal with those boxes and boxes of photos?
  • What is the difference between a mover and a move manager such as Silver Linings Transitions?
  • How to diffuse any needless fighting over belongings and keep the stress level down for everyone.

Be mindful of how much “stuff”  you buy. Spend money on experiences rather than stuff.

Spend more time focusing on the present and what you are able to do. Don’t worry about the future or the past. Focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do. Do something you have never done and always wanted to try.

Contact Information: Phone 858 522-9518Email: info@SilverLiningsTransitions.com * Website: www.SilverLiningsTransitions.com

National Association of Senior Move Managers  https://www.nasmm.org/

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Taking care of aging parents: Episode 53

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Iris Waichler

Taking care of aging parents with Iris Waichler

In episode 53 of Rock Your Retirement, our guest was Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW. You can listen to the show by clicking the little arrow button.

Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW has been a well-known patient advocate and licensed clinical social worker for the last 40 years. She has worked with patients and families who have experienced catastrophic illnesses like strokes, cancer, amputations, and head injuries. She also worked with people battling infertility. Ms. Waichler is an author and a Mom’s Choice Gold Award Winner. She was also the winner of the (NAPPA) Gold Award for best book of the year, and winner of the finalist award for Foreword Magazine 2007 non-fiction Book of the Year. Her newest book, “Role Reversal, Taking Care of Yourself and Your Aging Parents” arrived on bookshelves August 2016.

So many people are taking care of aging parents and still have children of their own living at home. This is the “Sandwich Generation”

Iris was involved of taking care of both of her aging parents. She tells a story about noticing her father was wearing two watches while at a doctor’s visit. This small detail leads to an emergency surgery for a hemorrhage in his brain.

Things to look for when visiting an aging parent or loved one:

  1. Demeanor
  2. Does their personal care seem to be getting worse?
  3. How are they eating?
  4. Condition of their home – Is the house in disarray?
  5. Are they showing any signs of memory loss?
  6. Do you see any physical symptoms or balance issues?
  7. Have there been changes in social behavior?
  8. Do you see changes in emotional status?
  9. Are there scratches and dents in their car?

How to bring up the difficult conversations that go along with taking care of aging parents.

  • Driving and are they safe to continue to drive?
  • Wills
  • Advance directives
  • Wishes upon death
  • Power of attorneys
  • Staying in their own home and whether or not is safe.

Iris also tells us about Geriatric Care managers. They can help with putting a game plan in place if it gets to be too overwhelming.

Iris’s Books: 

Role Reversal: How to Take Care of Yourself and Your Aging Parents
Riding the Infertility Roller Coaster: A Guide to Educate & Inspire

Contact information for Iris:  Website iriswaichler.wpengine.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RoleReversal1/

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The Silver Hour: Episode 46

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In this episode of Rock Your Retirement we talked to Dr. Marilyn Stoner. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/the-silver-hour-what-happens-during-death

Marilyn Stoner- The Silver HourThe Silver Hour – 30 minutes before and 30 minutes after death

In this episode of Rock Your Retirement we talked with Dr. Marilyn Stoner.

She is a professor at California State University San Bernardino, and before that she was on Faculty at CSU Fullerton. She was also the Vice President for Ramona Home Care and Hospice in Hemet, California.

Dr. Stoner’s  passion is about end of life care and she has been working with seniors and in the senior care industry since 1998. Her grandparents owned a funeral home so she is also familiar with death. She is a Professor now and has discovered something called the SilverHour which is the 30 minutes before and 30 minutes after death. She developed a unified vision of what the last moments of life and the first moments of death are so that every care giver knows what to do.

The Silver Hour includes three phases, namely dying, death, and dead:

1st 20 minutes (Pre-mortem)

  • Loose conciseness
  • Changes in body temperature
  • Breathing changes
  • Make sure family and care givers knows death is imminent
  • Reassuring patient

Declared dead (Mortem)

  • Position body
  • Wash body/prepare body
  • Position body
  • Prayers

Post mortem

  • Family begins life as grieving relatives
  • Transport of body

Dr. Stoner also discusses that if you get some warning of death it is a gift. Use this time to have conversations with your loved one about end of life and what they would like. Start the conversations lightly and don’t try to discuss every detail all at once. Give your love one time and space if needed.Also, ask them if there is anything they would like to do. Complete items on a bucket list, or travel somewhere if they are able

Something people should know before they retire:

Think about what you want and start working on it. Research or watch YouTube videos and what you think you may like to do. Think about what your goal is.

How to get “unstuck” in your retirement:

Focus on how absolutely precious life is and it is not going to go on forever. Identify people you admirer. Is your life going to be spent on the couch or doing something?

Contact information for Dr. Stoner

Phone: (951) 534-9014

Email: nursestoner@gmail.com

Twitter and Pinterest: @drmstoner

Website: http://silverhour.info/

Links mentioned in the interview

POLST- http://www.polst.org/

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Laughing with Parkinson’s Episode 26

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In this episode of Rock Your Retirement we talked to Vikki Claflin. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/laughing-with-parkinsons-episode-26

Vikki Claflin on laughing with Parkinson's.

Vikki Claflin on laughing with Parkinson’s.

Vikki is an international best-selling author, humor blogger, and inspirational public speaker.

She wrote the book, “Shake, Rattle, and Roll with It – Living and Laughing with Parkinson’s”.  Of course since my father has Parkinson’s Disease, I had to get her on the show!  She did not disappoint!  We talked about her book, her life, and our ailments, including my own dystonia.

Shake, Rattle, and Roll with It- Living and Laughing with Parkinson’s:

A few weeks after her first book, “Shake, Rattle, & Roll With It, Living & Laughing with Parkinson’s”’ came out, she received an email from a woman who said, “My mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s ten years ago. Since then, no one in the house has ever been allowed to talk about it, or even mention the word ‘Parkinson’s.” This created a lot of stress for the family as we all tried to pretend she wasn’t shaking or stumbling. Any reference to her condition was immediately shut down. I bought her your book and set it on her nightstand. She read the whole thing in one sitting that night. The next morning, she came down for breakfast and began talking about her Parkinson’s like it was the weather. She now talks about it, and even laughs about it, easily. The elephant in the room is gone. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”

We wanted to bring Vikki’s award winning humor to our audience, considering that many of us have parents and loved once with Parkinson’s Disease (including myself).  I wanted to find out how she is laughing with Parkinson’s, and she sure let us know! After all, her name has “laugh” in it!

Vikki gives us a glimpse into what it’s like to have the disease, and how anyone can kick their troubles in the butt by continuing to laugh, regardless of your circumstances.

Vikki lives in Hood River, OR, where she writes the award-winning humor blog Laugh Lines: Humorous thoughts and advice on how to live young when you’re…well…not, where she doles out irreverent advice on marriage, offers humorous how-to lists galore, and shares her most embarrassing midlife moments. She talks about mastering midlife with a little common sense and a lot of laughter.

She has been featured on the Michael J. Fox Foundation website, Erma Bombeck’s Writer’s Workshop, The Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Generation Fabulous, Midlife Boulevard, Better After 50, and Funny Times Magazine. She also received a BlogHer14 “Voices of the Year” Humor award. Vikki’s first book, Shake, Rattle & Roll With It: Living & Laughing with Parkinson’s chronicles her hilarious, and sometimes poignant journey, about living with Parkinson’s disease. Her newly released book, Who Left the Cork Out of My Lunch? Middle Age, Modern Marriage & Other Complications is available now on amazon.com. You can find more of Vikki’s writing at http://laugh-lines.net

Vikki’s Books:

Shake, Rattle & Roll With It: Living & Laughing with Parkinson’s Chronicles

Who Left the Cork Out of My Lunch?: Middle Age Modern Marriage & Other Complications

Something people should know before they retire:  Kathy Kinney, who played Mimi in The Drew Carey Show, says in her new book, “You don’t have to be 21 to have your whole life ahead of you.” Vikki loves this!

How to get “unstuck” in your retirement:  Learn to laugh at yourself. You’ll never run out of material.

Contact information:  Website  http://laugh-lines.net  (the hyphen is really important)

Helping seniors stay safely in their homes: Ep 24

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In this episode of Rock Your Retirement we talked to Jonna Overson. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/helping-seniors-stay-safely-in-their-homes-ep-24

Jonna is Helping seniors stay safely in their homes

Jonna is Helping seniors stay safely in their homes

Helping Seniors Stay Safely in their Homes:

Jonna Overson is the founder of Green Tree Homecare. She discovered her passion for helping seniors stay safely in their homes several years ago. She worked to develop a strong understanding of the home care environment and resources that are available to clients and their families. She takes an educational approach to home care advisement and loves giving clients the tools that they need to create a home care plan that is best for them.

Jonna considers the day a success when they can help a family feel secure that their loved one is comfortable and cared for in the security of their own home.   She helps seniors stay safely in their homes.  Their own homes.  Often retirees are torn between their own retirement needs and the needs of their parents.

We discuss Enduring Care which offers reduced rates for people on a fixed income.

We also discuss the full range of services Green Tree Home Care can provide. These can range from having someone for just a few hours a day to shop with groceries or just provide companionship all the way to or full time care for your loved one.  All of these services deal with helping seniors stay safely in their own hones,

One of the things I found most interesting is that they provide specific activities to improve or sustain memory.  Not all home care agencies do this.  Jonna also discusses the difference between using a licensed agency and hiring an independent home care giver and what you need to look out for.

What do you think people should know BEFORE they retire?

Smart planning and dialogue early with family members regarding your long term care as you age.

We have a lot of listeners who are new retirees or maybe feel stuck in their lives at the moment.  If you were sitting across the table from a new retiree, what’s the one piece of advice that you would give to have a successful retirement?

Find something that interests you and get involved. Find ways to help your community.

Contact information for Jonna Overson:  www.Greentreehc.com  Phone: 858-231-7676

Veterans Benefits for Memorial Day Ep. 23

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In this episode of Rock Your Retirement we talked to Tony Bevin. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/veterans-benefits-for-memorial-day-ep-23

Tony Bevin helps Veterans with Long Term Care Benefits

Tony Bevin helps Veterans with Long Term Care Benefits

Memorial Day Special on Veterans Benefits:

Tony Bevin joined us for our Memorial Day Episode to teach people what benefits veterans can get.  Many people are not aware of Veteran’s Aid and Attendance Pension Plan.

He helps veterans understand how to obtain long-term care benefits from the Department of Veterans Affairs. Most veterans are not aware of the benefits available through these programs. Tony has specialized in benefits and planning for families, spouses, and heirs for over 15 years. His knowledge, experience, and depth of understanding of the process and paperwork required is exceptional.  He says that he enjoys the environment and working with the elderly.

He helps take the burden off of Baby Boomer children by helping to determine the resources available for their parent’s situation.   Tony gives great information on how to qualify for Veteran’s Aid and Attendance, along with California’s state Medi-Cal program to help pay for Long Term Care.  Sometimes it’s better to go for Medi-Cal benefits,and sometimes it’s better to go for Veteran’s benefits.  Tony can assist your parents with either, since he’s been working with both programs for a very long time.

What do you think people should know BEFORE they retire?
Most people think that because they have a trust they are covered, but they are often wrong because the language in the trust does not meet the requirements needed to obtain benefits.

We have a lot of listeners who are new retirees or maybe feel stuck in their lives at the moment.  If you were sitting across the table from a new retiree, what’s the one piece of advice that you would give to have a successful retirement?

Be sure to pre-plan for long-term care needs so that you aren’t caught off guard.

Tony’s Contact information:   Phone: 858-673-8448  Email: Fsdmedical@aol.com  Website:  http://www.vabenefitsonline.com