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Dementia Symptoms: Episode 095

Ana González Seda on Early Dementia SymptomsOne in three people over the age of 65 in San Diego have dementia. Today we are talking about dementia symptoms.

Ana González Seda is the Program Director for the San Diego/Imperial Valley Chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association.  Her position is instrumental in providing face to face and online education and programming for caregivers, people living with Alzheimer’s Disease and other dementias. Ana has been working in the non- profit sector for leading health organizations in San Diego for over 15 years.

I asked Ana to come on the show to tell us about dementia symptoms. If you have a parent or loved one that gets diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, I  want you to know what to expect.

If you lose your keys, that is not a sign of dementia. But if you find them in the refrigerator, that could be a sign of dementia

What are the early signs and symptoms of Dementia?

  1. Memory Loss that disrupts daily life
  2. Challenges in planning or solving problems
  3. Difficulty completing familiar tasks at home, at work, or at leisure
  4. Confusion with time or place
  5. Trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships
  6. New problems with words in speaking or writing
  7. Misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace steps
  8. Decreased or poor judgment
  9. Withdrawal from work or social activities
  10. Changes in mood and personality

If you would like a copy of our freebie, 10 Early Signs and Symptoms of Alzheimer’s, go to http://rockyourretirement.com/dementia this gives more detailed information on dementia symptoms.

Contact information:  alz.org  * 800-272-3900- Master level consultants with extensive training regarding dementia. They can help with short term and long term planning.

If you are interested in learning more about Trial Match go to alz.org/trialmatch

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Avoid an Unhappy Retirement: Episode 094

Hank Coleman on how to avoid an unhappy retirementI interviewed Hank Coleman on how we can avoid an unhappy retirement

Hank Coleman founded several popular personal finance websites such as Money Q&A, Own The Dollar, Military Money Might, The Dividend Pig, and many others.  He is a freelance writer. Hank focuses on personal finance topics such as savings, investing, retirement, and many other money topics. I asked Hank to come on the show to talk about his parents and how much they hated the reality of retirement.

It’s never too early to plan for retirement

Hank has never spoken with his parents about their retirement, however, as an only child, who visits often, he can see that their retirement isn’t as amazing as they thought it would be. His parents had a grandiose idea of what retirement would be like, but when reality set in, it wasn’t as good as the dream they envisioned.  I talk with him about his parents’ retirement over the past 10 years and what he thinks went wrong. For Hank, it was heartbreaking to watch.

So what are Hank’s tips on how to avoid an unhappy retirement?

  1. Make sure your spouse knows your retirement dream. Many husbands and wives don’t talk to each other about what they want to do during retirement. Maybe they don’t want to do anything at all. Having a successful retirement starts with communication.
  2. If you can, plan a mini-retirement before you retire. Hank recommends taking a few weeks off and act like you’re retired. Have you ever dreamt of writing a book during retirement? You may want to consider taking your idea for a spin. You’ll never know if you have what it takes to live the retirement of your dreams unless you try it out
  3. You need a plan for your retirement. Now isn’t the time to start winging it.  The key to a perfect retirement is to have a plan and share with your loved ones.
  4. Don’t be too firmly rooted in your plan. Be open to flexibility as situations and circumstances do change
  5. Before you retire, you should look at how much money you’ll need in retirement. There are several useful online calculators that can show you a quick view of what your retirement will look like.

Contact information for Hank: Email: hank@moneyqanda.com * Website: http://moneyqanda.com

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Always Being Together: Episode 086

Barry and Catherine Cohen on always being together

Barry and Catherine Cohen

I was SO excited that I got to Catherine and Barry Cohen. I am sort of a “fangirl” (but not in a creepy weird way), They have a podcast I listen to all of the time called Together 24/7 and I am a fan! It’s about building businesses together but we talked about always being together. Which, they pretty much are!

Barry said that he and Catherine were genetically programmed to work together. Catherine’s parents built a retail shoe business and have worked together most of their 55 plus years of marriage. Barry’s father is 83 years old and still working! They said that he wouldn’t know what to do with himself and his wife would end up killing him if he was home all day every day.  (Sound familiar?)

Barry and Catherine are business strategists and have a company called Business Solutions for Growth. They work with businesses to help them create a plan of action for their business. We talked about what starting a business as a couple after retirement might look light. Retirement can be boring. A lot of people do this not necessarily for the money, but to do something they really enjoy.

Obviously, you love each other, but If you don’t like each other, retirement is going to be hard.

Some couples enjoy always being together however, there are some things Barry and Catherine say are important to remember:

  • Find common ground
  • Communicate
  • Have mutual respect for each other
  • Enjoy each other

What if always being together isn’t for you?

  • Vacation separately
  • Have days to hang out with friends
  • Keep the things you were doing separately before you retired
  • Decide which activities you enjoy doing together and what activities you want to do separately.

Regardless of whether you plan on spending every minute together in your retirement or plan on doing things separately, Barry and Cat say you should figure it out before retirement. Decide what you are going to do, write a list and talk about it. Prepare for always being together.

If you are thinking of creating a business, Barry and Catherine have offered my listeners a FREE 30-minute discovery session. You can contact them at info@businesssolutionsforgrowth.com or by calling 602-399-7430

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How do you handle always being together? Do you have any ideas or thoughts? We would love to hear them in the comments below:

Marriage Advice After Retirement: Episode 85

Lori Davis on Marriage Advice After RetirementLet’s face it, our spouses can get on our nerves! And once you retire, you’re gonna be spending even more glorious (or not so glorious) time together. In this episode, I talk with Lori Ann Davis on marriage advice after retirement.

Lori has over 28 years’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer, happier lives. I asked her to come on the show because she is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.

You want a marriage that is not only surviving but is actually thriving.

According to Lori, just because you don’t fight and your marriage seems OK, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is. She gives some great marriage advice after retirement.

Key Elements for working on your marriage (and Lori says yes, you have to work on your marriage all the time) 

  • Constantly reconnect with each other
  • Be interested
  • Get to know them on a deeper level
  • Make sure you are spending enough time together
  • Talk about your expectations for this phase of your life
  • Discuss your dreams and interests

The Do’s and Don’ts

DO:

  • Discover who your spouse is
  • Date each other
  • Remember why you chose each other

DON’T

  • Spend 24/7 together
  • Rush into anything if you have grown apart
  • Spend zero amount of time together

What do you do if you have grown apart?

  • Sit down and start dating each other again
  • Look for the positives and the good things
  • Renew the passion and intimacy
  • Flirt
  • Sit next to each other
  • Stop for a kissing break
  • Entice
  • Hold hands
  • Leave a flirty message on the pillow or sent a flirtatious text
  • Make out and be playful

Lori and I also talk about when it’s time to get help for your relationship whether it is a counselor or a coach. Lori says the sooner you get help the better and don’t wait until you have given up.

Should you give marriage advice to a friend if they ask for it? Comment below if you have any thoughts on this subject.

Book:  Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.

Contact information: www.lorianndavis.com

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Dealing with Pet Loss: Episode 84

Von Braschler Dealing with Pet LossIf you are like me, your animals are a big part of your family. In this episode, I talk with Von Braschler about dealing with pet loss and grief. 

Von is the author of the book Natural Pet Healing and the e-book Healing with Your Pet: Our Psychic Spiritual Connection, which is based in part on his 4-year popular podcast which was called “Healing with your Pet.” He rescues cats and has volunteered as a dog walker and groomer for the Humane Society. He is also a certified pet massage therapist. 

There are steps that you really need to go through in dealing with pet loss

The most popular names in the US for pets are no longer Fluffy or Spot. Instead, they are names such as Max, Sam, Ginger, Misty, Jake, and Samantha. These are like children’s names and they become our family. According to Von, the bond we have with our pets these days is stronger than ever before. Pets are not spending as much time outside, they live in the house with us, therefore, our bond with them gets stronger.

Most of us will go through many… many pets and will sadly lose them and go through grief. Unless someone has lived with an animal or had a pet that is close to them, they do not feel the bond and they can’t truly empathize with the grief you go through.

What are the steps for dealing with pet loss?

  1. Take lots of photos and make a book out of them
  2. Keep collars, tags (keepsakes)
  3. Celebrate their life
  4. Surround yourself with sympathetic people
  5. Allow yourself to grieve
  6. If you have another pet, you can comfort each other and grieve together
  7. Have a small ceremony
  8. Join a pet loss support group either online or in person
  9. Have age appropriate animal (someone who is elderly may not want to get a parrot who will live a very long time)
Books: 

Natural Pet Healing: Our Psychic, Spiritual Connection

Healing with your Pet: Our Psychic, Spiritual Connection (Kindle Edition)

Contact Information: If you would like to reach out to Von you can go to facebook.com/vbraschler

 Websites we mentioned in our interview:

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track…and helps with these show notes!
  • Les Briney, my husband, and Danny Ozment of Emerald City Pro who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
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What do you say to someone who’s grieving? Episode 66

What do you say to someone who's grieving?

Natalia Volz speaks on Grief

So many people in my life in 2016 were grieving it’s difficult to track them all.

Some of them lost a family member.  Some lost a pet.  And some were grieving over their lost candidate after the election. One of the things that most of us have to deal with in retirement is grief – either our own or someone else’s.  What do you say to someone who’s grieving?  That’s exactly what I asked Natalia Volz and the answer may surprise you.

Natalia Volz is the founder of Passing Through Grief and the RELIEF Process.

She helps individuals who feel lost and down after experiencing a significant loss or change in their life such as a death, divorce, or children leaving home to heal their pain so they can rebuild their life and find renewed purpose.

She has first hand experience with loss and grief.  In 2010, after a two-year battle with cancer, her husband died at the age of 49. Lost, alone, and very frightened, she eventually found her way through the devastating pain of loss and grief.

There is a lack of understanding and a fear in our culture about loss and grief and she found herself struggling to find help to get through. She worked diligently to move beyond her own grief and on to living happily and purposefully.   Natalia read every book she could get my hands on, took courses on the subject, and completed grief recovery certification training, and in the process became passionate about making a difference in the way our society deals with loss, change and grief.

It’s easy to tell that she feels passionate about getting out accurate information on a subject we normally avoid but all have to confront first hand at some point in our lives.

I asked Natalia, “What do you say?”  I know that I’m always at a loss for words when I’m confronted with someone who is grieving, because I know that nothing I say or do is going to bring their wholeness back. She had a very interesting answer:   Be a heart with ears.

For the person who is grieving, she said that time does not heal all wounds.  The person suffering a loss needs to talk about it.  Keeping busy does not heal. So what do you say to someone who’s grieving?

Natalia gave us some steps to take to help with our own grief:

  • Find a place to talk about the feelings of loss.
  • Write about your feelings about the loss.
  • Connect with others.  See if there is one friend who will listen to how you are feeling.  Tell them you just need to talk, and to have them listen.
  • Say it or write it while you are feeling the emotion.
  • Grief causes a lot of energy.  Move through it through your body. Don’t stuff it.  Take a walk if you can.
  • Listen to music that makes you cry. Get your tears out.  Crying releases a stress hormone that actually helps you release the stress.  Don’t worry, you can’t cry forever.  Normally it takes about 15 minutes and then you feel better.
  • Writing really helps with the relief process.

So what do you say to someone who’s grieving?  For dealing with others, remember you can’t fix it so don’t even try.  Be a heart with ears.  If your friend is telling you about some guilt that they might feel, don’t discount it by saying “He knew you loved him”, instead say something like, “I can imagine that would be really painful.  I can’t imagine what that would feel like.  Tell me more”.

Natalia gave us some excellent advice, but unfortunately my internet went out right when we were wrapping up the show.  I hope to have her come back someday because what she had to say was so valuable.  The good news is that we were wrapping up, about to give out her contact information, which we have below.

If you’d like to contact Natalia, you can reach her at 877-606-0909 or Natalia@PassingThroughGrief.com

Her website is http://PassingThroughGrief.com.

Get today’s Freebie, Five Quick Easy Action Steps You Can Do Now To Get Relief From Grief, at www.RockYourRetirement.com/Relief

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

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