Celebrate being over 50! Episode 70

Lorraine Ladish Photo Credit Phillippe Diederich.

Lorraine Ladish
Photo by Phillippe Diederich.

Lorraine Ladish is a 21st Century Communicator, helping empower women and others to achieve their goals. She is the founder and CEO of Viva Fifty! a bilingual community that celebrates being over 50. She’s worked as an editor and social media coordinator for a number of online publications. Her next book on embracing age will be published by HarperCollins in 2017. 

By choice, Lorraine always worked, but never on a payroll.  She thought everyone did what they loved.

Her Dad wanted her to be a Marine Biologist because he thought it was stable and she’d make a lot of money.  Now she makes more staying at home than Marine Biologists do.

Lorraine tries to inspire women to live their best life every day and to celebrate being over 50!

She wants to inspire women who speak both English and Spanish to live their best lives. When you do something you are passionate about, it makes you feel purposeful, happy and helps to avoid a downhill spiral in retirement.

The sections of her website are:

  • Mind
  • Body
  • Grace (Beauty)
  • Escape (what to do when you aren’t working)
  • Relationships

It turns out English speakers are looking for beauty and Spanish speakers are looking for Relationships

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She caters to all types of people. There is no “one size fits all” for being over 50.

  • People are entering their 60s with young children
  • Some 50-year-old women are having children!
  • Some grandparents are raising grandchildren

Lorraine gave some great advice: Do what you love. Spain has a caste system that is difficult to break.  She did it, and if Lorraine did it you can too!  Think of what you wish you had done or would do for free, for example, YOU could write a book. Think of the one thing you want to do, and then just do it!  You CAN love being over 50!

Books: 

Contact information for Lorraine: Website VivaFifty.com and LorraineCLadish.com

Lorraine wanted to give her short book “REACH: From single mom on welfare to digital entrepreneur” as today’s freebie. Just go to

**Note: Lorraine initially thought she would be able to make her book, REACH, free for our listeners but unfortunately Amazon no longer allows for that.  So there is a small charge for the book.

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track…and helps with these show notes!
  • Les Briney, my husband, and Danny Ozment of Emerald City Pro who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
  • YOU the listener for sharing on social media, telling your friends about it, and reviewing the show on iTunes

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What do you say to someone who’s grieving? Episode 66

What do you say to someone who's grieving?

Natalia Volz speaks on Grief

So many people in my life in 2016 were grieving it’s difficult to track them all.

Some of them lost a family member.  Some lost a pet.  And some were grieving over their lost candidate after the election. One of the things that most of us have to deal with in retirement is grief – either our own or someone else’s.  What do you say to someone who’s grieving?  That’s exactly what I asked Natalia Volz and the answer may surprise you.

Natalia Volz is the founder of Passing Through Grief and the RELIEF Process.

She helps individuals who feel lost and down after experiencing a significant loss or change in their life such as a death, divorce, or children leaving home to heal their pain so they can rebuild their life and find renewed purpose.

She has first hand experience with loss and grief.  In 2010, after a two-year battle with cancer, her husband died at the age of 49. Lost, alone, and very frightened, she eventually found her way through the devastating pain of loss and grief.

There is a lack of understanding and a fear in our culture about loss and grief and she found herself struggling to find help to get through. She worked diligently to move beyond her own grief and on to living happily and purposefully.   Natalia read every book she could get my hands on, took courses on the subject, and completed grief recovery certification training, and in the process became passionate about making a difference in the way our society deals with loss, change and grief.

It’s easy to tell that she feels passionate about getting out accurate information on a subject we normally avoid but all have to confront first hand at some point in our lives.

I asked Natalia, “What do you say?”  I know that I’m always at a loss for words when I’m confronted with someone who is grieving, because I know that nothing I say or do is going to bring their wholeness back. She had a very interesting answer:   Be a heart with ears.

For the person who is grieving, she said that time does not heal all wounds.  The person suffering a loss needs to talk about it.  Keeping busy does not heal. So what do you say to someone who’s grieving?

Natalia gave us some steps to take to help with our own grief:

  • Find a place to talk about the feelings of loss.
  • Write about your feelings about the loss.
  • Connect with others.  See if there is one friend who will listen to how you are feeling.  Tell them you just need to talk, and to have them listen.
  • Say it or write it while you are feeling the emotion.
  • Grief causes a lot of energy.  Move through it through your body. Don’t stuff it.  Take a walk if you can.
  • Listen to music that makes you cry. Get your tears out.  Crying releases a stress hormone that actually helps you release the stress.  Don’t worry, you can’t cry forever.  Normally it takes about 15 minutes and then you feel better.
  • Writing really helps with the relief process.

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So what do you say to someone who’s grieving?  For dealing with others, remember you can’t fix it so don’t even try.  Be a heart with ears.  If your friend is telling you about some guilt that they might feel, don’t discount it by saying “He knew you loved him”, instead say something like, “I can imagine that would be really painful.  I can’t imagine what that would feel like.  Tell me more”.

Natalia gave us some excellent advice, but unfortunately my internet went out right when we were wrapping up the show.  I hope to have her come back someday because what she had to say was so valuable.  The good news is that we were wrapping up, about to give out her contact information, which we have below.

If you’d like to contact Natalia, you can reach her at 877-606-0909 or Natalia@PassingThroughGrief.com

Her website is http://PassingThroughGrief.com.

Get today’s Freebie, Five Quick Easy Action Steps You Can Do Now To Get Relief From Grief, at www.RockYourRetirement.com/Relief

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

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You, Me and Hospice: The Truth (Episode 64)

Jennifer Marsh, hospice expert

Jennifer Marsh, hospice expert

One of the things that we need to consider in our retirement lifestyle planning is how we are going to deal with illness and dying.  And, when the time comes, hospice care can be an excellent way of preparing ourselves for the inevitable.

I knew that Jennifer was a hospice expert, but I didn’t know that in 2006 she got her Master’s Degree.  She worked with

children at the time and went to school to get her Master’s Degree.  She credits her professor with saving her life when he suggested that she work with hospice.  There are only two schools that offer courses on death and dying in San Diego.

Jennifer Marsh is a community education and outreach specialist for Hospice of the North Coast. She has over ten years of creating, marketing and sustaining thriving educational programs to the general community about serious illness, care-giving and grief and loss issues.

Jennifer has been published in the Touching Lives magazine (2009), and featured on KOCT-TV and Eldercare Talk Radio providing insight and resources to those coping with a serious illness, caring for a loved one and grieving. Jennifer is an expert on hospice and mortality and has been interviewed on the SevenPonds Blog.

She has expertise in creating and implementing community outreach and fundraising events, including Breathe Deep San Diego.

In 2013, she was named as a Finalist for the San Diego Women Who Mean Business Awards through the San Diego Business Journal.

Everyone I know who works in hospice care is a caring person.  That field seems to attract loving and patient people.  Jennifer’s mom had cancer, and even though she had already been working in her chosen field when this happened, she instantly became “the daughter”.  She knows what its like to have a loved one who has been diagnosed with a deadly disease.

There are a lot of misconceptions about hospice and that’s why I asked Jennifer to be on the show.  She shared with us the important truth about hospice:

  • Recommended reading is “Being Mortal“.  You can watch the documentary on Front Line.
  • National Hospice has a FAQ that answers common questions such as:   
    • When is the right time to ask about hospice?
    • How does care begin?
    • Will I be the only hospice patient that the staff serves?
    • Is care available after hours?
    • How does it work to keep the patient comfortable?
    • What role does the volunteer serve?
    • If I reside in a nursing facility or other type of long-term care facility can I elect hospice care?
    • What happens if I cannot stay at home due to my increasing care need and require a different place to stay during my final phase of life?
    • Do state and federal reviewers inspect and evaluate hospices?
    • How can I be sure that quality care is provided?

To get the answers, just go to their website HERE.

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  • Choosing a hospice care program does not mean you are giving up hope
  • It is not a PLACE.  It is a type of care

  • Ask your doctor if he or she will continue to work with you.  Many programs have working relationships with their referring doctors
  • Palliative care comes before hospice and you can start that as soon as you have a diagnosis. You don’t give up curative treatment

  • Hospice focuses on Quality of Life, and supports psycho-social, medical, and spiritual needs.  These can include:
  • You can leave hospice if you choose

  • It includes free grief support for a year or longer after the patient’s death

Contact Jennifer at jmarsh@hospicenorthcoast.org or 760-431-4100

Hospice of the North Coast also has an annual fundraising event that you can attend. As of this posting it will be on April 8th.  We hope to see you there!

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Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

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Stuff and Retirement: Hillbilly Nerd Talk: Episode 55

Stuff and RetirementToday’s episode of Rock Your Retirement is a sneak peak at the interview that Kathe did on Hillbilly Nerd Talk.  Hank and Petra talked to me about their own retirement.  During the interview, we wondered if stuff and retirement don’t go together.  And, is “Retirement” even the right word? Many Baby Boomers are redefining what they want to do in their later years.  They can be more care free than the generations that came before.  That is, if they have prepared Financially.

We talked about the fact that there are two types of Baby Boomer Retirements:  Those who planned financially and those who didn’t.  For those who have the financial resources, their retirement is more like a teenager’s life, but with the ability to do more.

Even though the show, Rock Your Retirement, doesn’t specifically discuss finances, it is true that if you are completely financially strapped, you’ll be thinking about putting food on the table and a roof over your head.  We assume that the listeners to Rock Your Retirement have already done some financial planning and that they are looking for different information. We have discussed Stuff and Retirement in the past.  Check out the episode on Downsizing.

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Stuff and Retirement:

We Americans are tied to our STUFF.  We talked about Wendy Holt (episode 9) who moved to Costa Rica.  She gave up all her stuff, along with the hustle and bustle of Los Angeles.

Speaking of stuff…Hank and Petra DO live differently than most of their peers.  Hank drives Elmer, a twelve year old pickup truck.  At ages 47 and 44 they could have “retired” earlier.  Living a less extravagant lifestyle gives you freedom.  Hank said that objects tie us down.  Petra said that they are invigorated by the next phase of their life.

Every town in America has storage facilities where we have to store extra stuff. People keep their stuff in their garage, and their cars on the street. Petra brought up that people could probably clear out a bedroom to keep extra stuff in, but we just have so much!

Frank brought up “First World Problems”.

Imagine trying to explain to a person in Africa or Nigeria how we have a problem in America where we have too much stuff, and we have to rent extra boxes to store it all.   Petra also talked about how you can rent shipping crates to store your stuff in your yard.

Just think:  If you die and haven’t gotten rid of it, someone else will have to go through your stuff.  Your stuff will wind up in an Estate Sale.  Frank said that you can retire earlier if you didn’t have so much stuff as you went along.  Again, Stuff and Retirement don’t go together. Your STUFF can impede your retirement, and your life!

Hank brought up the Maslow theory, that once you reach a basic level of survival, more stuff has zero effect of being happy.  Petra said that when you get to a certain point, there is nothing to strive for.  It even might impede your happiness.  We all agreed that more stuff actually causes less happiness, not more.

He also said to be proactive, not only with what to do with your money, but also with what to do with your time.  Hank brought up the fact that he cannot podcast 10 hours a day (although they have a great show, check it out).

If you like the Rock Your Retirement show, please tell a friend! That’s the only way we grow, one listener at a time.

Listen to Hank and Petra’s show, Hillbilly Nerd Talk, HERE.

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Corny Jokes Episode: Episode 54

corny jokes

Is the holiday season getting you down? Let us help you through it with our dumb and corny jokes episode!

Les and Kathe tell corny jokes that a 10 year old boy might laugh at (or maybe not).

To listen, click on the little arrow thingy or get the episodes on your smartphone.  Don’t know how to do that?  These videos will teach you how to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast, and you can listen on your phone or tablet.

Don’t forget to rate and review the show on iTunes! Don’t know how?  Click HERE, and we’ll teach you with a different video!

Next week the show will stop the corny jokes (thank goodness!) and resume to normal programing.

The corny jokes on this episode were taken from “Jokelpedia, The Biggest, Best, Silliest, Dumbest Joke book Ever, 2nd edition, compiled by Ilana Weitzman, Eva Blank, Alison Benjamin, and Rosanne Green. Book Copyright by Somerville House 2000, 2006 by Ken Porter and Workman Publishing Co.

 

You can find a Fulfilling Life in Retirement! Episode 50

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"<yoastmarkJanelle  Anderson helps people discover their pathways to a fulfilling life in retirement.

Ms. Anderson works with women find a fulfilling life in retirement.  She is a Certified Professional Coach through her business, Emerging Life Coaching. Janelle typically works with women who are transitioning into a new season in life, whether that is from the “busy mother raising children season” to an “empty nest” season or from “busy career life” to the season of retired life. And…she helps them discover a new game to play and who they truly want to be in this “third act of life.” Her work with clients includes one-on-one private coaching sessions, as well coaching groups, workshops and personal development classes.

She developed a retirement transition course called “Pathways to a Fulfilling Life in Retirement.” This course was featured in Virginia Tech’s Lifelong Learning Institute this past Spring.

She has created a personalized coaching program from this course called “Redefine Your Retirement.”

Janelle’s Pathways to a Fulfilling life in Retirement course is a 6 week course that goes through the following:

  • Week 1 – Assessment. This is spent doing various types of assessments to determine where people are in their transitions. She uses “REC” which means:
    • Release – Letting go of your past life
    • Explore – What do I want to do now
    • Create – Setting out steps and goals to create a new life in retirement
  • Week 2 – Envisioning which is setting the vision of where you want to go and who you want to be. Dream and paint a big picture of what’s possible.
  • Week 3 – What’s stopping you? “GAILS”
    • Gremlins
    • Assumptions
    • Interpretations and
    • Limiting beliefs
  • Week 4 – Work on removing the roadblocks in your life. Create possibilities and figure out how to write a new story for your life.
  • Week 5 – This week is spent looking at key relationships in your life. Where are they?  Are they draining you? Are they energizing you?
  • Week 6 – Create your best life by coming up with a plan, action steps, and goals to create the life you want to live in retirement

I’m not unhappy, I’m doing things I enjoy like gardening and going out with my friends, but I just keep asking myself is this all there is?

Janelle talks about her client Margie who was struggling with becoming an “empty nester” and she also talks about Sandra who felt unfulfilled in her retirement.

Margie had just entered the “empty nest” when she came to me. The last of her children had just moved out and she was really floundering with her life, not knowing what to do with herself.

Know that there is not just one transition that is going to happen. There are many transitions and that it is normal and you may need time to re-adjust to figure out where you are and what you want to do.

We asked, “What advice would you give to a retiree who feels stuck?”  She answered, “Appreciate the moment. Live in the present moment, live every moment to the fullest and learn how to find joy right now.”

Contact information: 540-391-0332  janelle@emerginglifecoaching.com  www.emerginglifecoaching.com

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