Let’s face it, our spouses can get on our nerves! And once you retire, you’re gonna be spending even more glorious (or not so glorious) time together. In this episode, I talk with Lori Ann Davis on marriage advice after retirement.
Lori has over 28 years’ experience empowering individuals and couples to live richer, happier lives. I asked her to come on the show because she is the author of Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships: How to Find, Keep and Renew Love and Passion in Your Life.
You want a marriage that is not only surviving but is actually thriving.
According to Lori, just because you don’t fight and your marriage seems OK, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is. She gives some great marriage advice after retirement.
Key Elements for working on your marriage (and Lori says yes, you have to work on your marriage all the time)
- Constantly reconnect with each other
- Be interested
- Get to know them on a deeper level
- Make sure you are spending enough time together
- Talk about your expectations for this phase of your life
- Discuss your dreams and interests
The Do’s and Don’ts
- Discover who your spouse is
- Date each other
- Remember why you chose each other
- Spend 24/7 together
- Rush into anything if you have grown apart
- Spend zero amount of time together
What do you do if you have grown apart?
- Sit down and start dating each other again
- Look for the positives and the good things
- Renew the passion and intimacy
- Sit next to each other
- Stop for a kissing break
- Hold hands
- Leave a flirty message on the pillow or sent a flirtatious text
- Make out and be playful
Lori and I also talk about when it’s time to get help for your relationship whether it is a counselor or a coach. Lori says the sooner you get help the better and don’t wait until you have given up.
Should you give marriage advice to a friend if they ask for it? Comment below if you have any thoughts on this subject.
Contact information: www.lorianndavis.com
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